1 Peter - Finding the Real You
Growth Group Discussion Questions
Week #11:  March 18, 2012
“When Relationships are Unfair”


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Warm-Up
When you were a child, what do you remember fighting about on family trips?

Catch-Up
Reflect on the weekend message…  What did God impress on your heart?


Bible Reading & Discussion Questions
(Break into Tiny Groups of 3-5 people – all men & all women, if possible)

8 Finally, all of you, live in harmony with one another; be sympathetic, love as brothers, be compassionate and humble. 9 Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult, but with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing. 10 For, “Whoever would love life and see good days must keep his tongue from evil and his lips from deceitful speech. 11 He must turn from evil and do good; he must seek peace and pursue it. 12 For the eyes of the Lord are on the righteous and his ears are attentive to their prayer, but the face of the Lord is against those who do evil.” 1 Peter 3:8–12  (NIV)

1. Verse 8 describes the ingredients for great relationships and for the type of community between people that greatly honors God. What are the five commands? Which of the five commands are the most challenging for you? Why?

2. Verse 9 describes how to respond when you are sinned against or hurt. Why is this response challenging? What is the motivation that is described in verse 9 for responding in this manner?

3. How should we live if we want to “love life and see good days” (v. 10)?


The longest recorded prayer of Jesus occurs in John 17. This prayer occurs just before Jesus is betrayed and probably happened at the last supper. The content of the prayer reveals his main concerns before He leaves His disciples.

20 “My prayer is not for them alone. I pray also for those who will believe in me through their message, 21 that all of them may be one, Father, just as you are in me and I am in you. May they also be in us so that the world may believe that you have sent me. 22 I have given them the glory that you gave me, that they may be one as we are one: 23 I in them and you in me. May they be brought to complete unity to let the world know that you sent me and have loved them even as you have loved me.”  John 17:20–23  (NIV84)


4. Who is the focus of his prayer?

5. What is He praying for?

6. What kind of unity exists between God and Jesus that we should copy? What does unity look like and feel like?

7. Why is Jesus praying this prayer (v. 23)? How important is unity between believers?

8. What do you think unity between believers communicates to the world? 

Application & Prayer

9. Rate the unity in your Growth Group from 1 to 10 (1-low & 10-high). How can the unity in your group improve?

10.  What relationship in your life most needs this lesson? What do you need to do to improve the unity and oneness of that relationship? 

11.  Please pray for one another. Please pray that we can extend forgiveness, under-standing, patience to the difficult relationships expressed in this group, today!


“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”
John 13:34–35, NIV